Your mate & Your friends [Archive]

Kristin

11-02-2005, 02:24 PM

coolcloo1019

11-02-2005, 02:27 PM

I can't stand my g/f's best friend...and she hates the fact that I don't like her. But we've been together for 2 years now and so far it hasn't really been a problem.

VeronicATM

11-02-2005, 02:29 PM

This is an interesting question...before I would've said it doesn't matter. But now, it is very important that my mate can get along with Becky, most importantly. lol. We are always around each other, and she isn't going anywhere so...they have to get used to her and like her. I do not tolerate anyone bad mouthing her. So that would create a major problem for me if my mate didn't like her. If it was any of my other friends, it wouldn't be that big of an issue. But her, yes.

I'm Slow

11-02-2005, 02:33 PM

It is healthy to have your own set of friends in a relationship. Not everyone needs to get along.

VeronicATM

11-02-2005, 02:37 PM

No not everyone does. But it depends on how the people act towards each other. You can not like someone, and still keep quiet and keep things good. BUT if that person starts talking bad about my friend, than that's where I draw the line. I lost a good friend because of that. He couldn't keep his mouth shut...

ugly86integra

11-02-2005, 02:37 PM

your mate should except your friends or at least respect that they're your friends and not try to keep you away from them.
just like one of our friends here on tr, his gf is a bitch and wont let him go near us!
we tried to give her a fair chance and we were really nice to her but she just wants to be a bitch! so she sucks !!!!!! lol by the way is there any girls in here interested in a really good guy who loves street racing and knows how to treat his girl right???
this guy needs a new girl that isnt a pshyco hose beast !!!!! lmk :D

Holly Golightly

11-02-2005, 02:37 PM

Yes. extremely important

Kristin

11-02-2005, 02:40 PM

It is healthy to have your own set of friends in a relationship. Not everyone needs to get along.

True.....but I do think it is easier if your closest friends get along with your mate. If your going to try to spend time with both and do group things, it makes life easier.

I dated a guy that my bff HATED. To this day she's run him over if she saw him crossing the street. The fact that I had to make sure she wasn't home when he was coming over or having to meet him outside so they wouldn't have a run-in put strain on my relationship with him and mine with her.

obie

11-02-2005, 02:41 PM

I think it depends on what kind of person you are. A lot of girls will ditch all their friends for there boyfriend. If this is the case it really doesn't matter. But if the couple likes to hang out with their friends all the time, then I see it being a problem.

Lumberjack

11-02-2005, 04:00 PM

in my experience it doesnt work. well in my case none of my friends liked my girl friend at the time snd she didnt like any of them either. then it donged on me.......i didnt really like her either hmm... weird

R6Mitsu

11-02-2005, 04:08 PM

Its easier to have a realtionship when its just friends that are the problem. Its hard when you dont like, say, her sister. Then its tough.

juke

11-02-2005, 04:11 PM

They atleast have to respect each other. I couldn't stand it when my friends would bash the girl that I was with and vice-versa. I dated one girl that got along with my friends, life was a lot easier.

Pookie Bear

11-02-2005, 04:34 PM

yes the 2 must mesh or it will never work

ccadman

11-02-2005, 04:52 PM

Can a relationship last if your mate doesn't get along with your friends???

There was a poll of over 20,000 and Most said that it would work for a while, but in the end you'd kick your partner to the curb if he/she couldn't hang out with your friends as a group.

What do you all think? Is it important that your mate can get along well with your friends?

Wife hated my friends......after a few years they all got married and moved away....we have been together 15 years now and I still talk to my friends and hangout when they come to town so yes it can work out

AmandaR

11-02-2005, 05:02 PM

I think that it is important that they are friends. I wouldn't like it if my "mate" didn't get along with me friends bc I love doing the group hanging out thing.. bc when I was with an ex he didn't like my friends and I cut those people out of my life and I'll never do that again

Tiffany and I tell her bf that he has to be my bff .. haha but him and I actually are good friends.

Ian MMF

11-02-2005, 06:00 PM

I usually can get along with anyone I want to so that has never been a problem. It always helps that the other person in the relationship gets along with my friends but not to the point to where she hangs out with my friends when I am not around or they hang out with her when I am not around and I would do the same for her. Them getting along/being friends is good just as long as they know the boundaries and dont cross them.

Tackleberry

11-02-2005, 06:20 PM

she has to get along with my best of friends and family. they dont have to be best buddys or hang out and talk everyday, but when together, have to have a good mutual respect for each other.

if my GF is not liked and respected by my friends and family...and vice versa...sorry...they were there before bitch, have a nice day.

Holly Golightly

11-02-2005, 06:23 PM

...not to the point to where she hangs out with my friends when I am not around or they hang out with her when I am not around and I would do the same for her. Them getting along/being friends is good just as long as they know the boundaries and dont cross them.

yep. learned the hard way with that one!

Vito_Corleone

11-02-2005, 07:03 PM

No.

98MODMTR

11-02-2005, 07:15 PM

nope

1BADP71

11-02-2005, 07:45 PM

ive got some close female friends that wont let me date a girl till she passes with them :lol:

number_2

11-02-2005, 09:12 PM

i've been in the situation where my boyfriend didn't like my friends, and it made my life a living hell. i won't say it's impossible, but personally i'd rather jump off a bridge.

Simplicity

11-02-2005, 09:15 PM

My boyfriend doesn't like to many of my friends, but its good it gets me away from him when I hang out with them. I think it depends on how serious the relationship is. If you love your significant other enough, it wouldn't affect the relationship to much

Strongest Man In The World

11-02-2005, 09:35 PM

i call my girlfriends best friend CB (cock block) because everytime she comes out with my woman, I have to find a wingman to entertain her so i can have some alone time. If not, she'll 3rd wheel it so bad that I end up going to bed with a full load.