Ok girls what if the guy was honest with you??? [Archive]

DookieLuv!

01-23-2007, 06:57 AM

You meet a guy who you are very interested in, you think hes nice and dateable and you try to set up some times to meet up with him and he tells you "Well right now Im just kinda dating around and I have 4-5 girls that Im seeing but nothing too serious, but I should pobably be free next monday and maybe some point on the weekend..... I'll just call you when I get free and we can set something up". Would you be ok with that, and just stick around??? Or is he just another guy who wants his cake and eat it too?

SubyClassifieds

01-23-2007, 06:58 AM

How many hours of your day is spent daydreaming what if's?

Decoy_TT

01-23-2007, 07:09 AM

DookieLuv!

01-23-2007, 07:10 AM

How many hours of your day is spent daydreaming what if's?None, they just come to me...this stems from the other thread where all the girls are telling him to be honest with the 5 girls he is dating.

oh1coupe

01-23-2007, 08:18 AM

I think he is referring to my recent thread and responding to some of the comments..

To be honest I don't think ANY girl would stick around after being told that. I think a lot of girls would like to THINK they wouldn't have a problem, but in reality I think if I told the girls I am dating now that I am dating others also, they would drop me so fast I'd have to change my underoo's.

negitory......before I married my wife I was dating her, a dr in naples, and then had several 1st dates a month with different random chicks who didnt want to date anymore because i was seeing other people. Quality women appreiciate honesty and won't be scared off. You just have to man up and be honest.

ChristiMarie

01-23-2007, 08:49 AM

Not for me. When I date someone it's more of an interview for a relationship. I would be his friend that's about it.

oh1coupe

01-23-2007, 09:16 AM

Not for me. When I date someone it's more of an interview for a relationship. I would be his friend that's about it.

Thats exaclty what someone who wants to date several people at once wants....a friend who will go out with them....it is an interviewing process.

NikkiXoXo

01-23-2007, 09:24 AM

Hmmm I'm kinda of that way now lol .. Not looking going on dates but if some thing comes along then great . If they seem like there can be relationship material then the other guys will drop off , lol and then its just him ."exclusive".............. So If a guy was going to be like that way and see more than one girl , Thats fine with me as long as he isn't sleeping with all of them , Dates are fine with other chicas . But sleeping with the other girls thats a :nono:

DookieLuv!

01-23-2007, 10:07 AM

Thats fine with me as long as he isn't sleeping with all of them , Dates are fine with other chicas . But sleeping with the other girls thats a :nono:Well considering you guys are "just friends" and that we have already established in past threads that you shouldnt want to know nor do you have the right to know his sexual past, then you are not privy to that information, so you wouldnt really know either way... Besides, whats the difference between a guy nailing 20 bitches in the past, and him sleeping with 4 girls at one time?? Its all strange pussy, so it really shouldnt matter.

AmandaR

01-23-2007, 10:49 AM

this is why i hate dating haha.

im not saying that i wouldnt go on dates with guys and friends and whatever else and i wouldnt expect the guy to not be going on any others either but if i knew that i wouldnt think it was going anywhere i would think to myself that he probably isnt looking for a relationship and i would just be his friend.. he would get no benefits of it being a date or me being his date.

ChristiMarie

01-23-2007, 10:51 AM

I just wont sleep with a guy I'm not exclusive with. And without sex or feelings, it's just a friendship anyway.

Cammo

01-23-2007, 11:12 AM

To be honest I don't think ANY girl would stick around after being told that. I think a lot of girls would like to THINK they wouldn't have a problem, but in reality I think if I told the girls I am dating now that I am dating others also, they would drop me so fast I'd have to change my underoo's.

Replace the word girl with woman and things are tottaly different.

oh1coupe

01-23-2007, 11:13 AM

wtf pervs...lol you guys think dating is all about the sex? thats what bootycalls are for.....and thats a completely differnet subject.

Holly Golightly

01-23-2007, 11:14 AM

Doesnt everyone serial date when they are looking for someone? Atleast he is up front about it.

oh1coupe

01-23-2007, 11:20 AM

Doesnt everyone serial date when they are looking for someone? Atleast he is up front about it.

no hes not,,,they dont know,,,"they would drop me so fast" was his comment.

Krystle Burger

01-23-2007, 11:23 AM

I'd rather be on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis. No point in clouding your mind with the other things this guy could be doing since he's technically single.

So to answer the question, if a guy came straight out and said that I would probably be like "yeah I'm busy that night....see ya!" There are a lot of guys who would want to date who aren't talking to 4 other chicks.

moldyhands

01-23-2007, 11:26 AM

it's stupid to think that when you meet someone at first, they shouldn't have any other possible romantic endeavors on the horizon. if i met a girl and was dating another girl or other girls, i would simply say, "i have plans that night, how about....?". there's no explanation needed. it's not being dishonest. you're telling the truth that you have plans, and quite frankly, someone you just met, that you haven't even gone out on a date with, has no right to know your personal life yet.

obviously it changes if/when things get serious. when you start liking someone, you don't date anyone else, and you become exclusive. but a lot of you guys sound like you're still in highschool with this crap.

moldyhands

01-23-2007, 11:27 AM

Replace the word girl with woman and things are tottaly different.

+ fucking 1

Becky

01-23-2007, 11:28 AM

Long as we are not haveing sex I don't care .

Holly Golightly

01-23-2007, 11:35 AM

no hes not,,,they dont know,,,"they would drop me so fast" was his comment.

What?

oh1coupe

01-23-2007, 11:37 AM

DookieLuv!

01-23-2007, 12:11 PM

So basically what Im getting at is that all the girls were saying in the other thread "be honest and let them know your dating other girls", when in reality, thats a pretty stupid thing to do....

Krystle Burger

01-23-2007, 12:14 PM

So basically what Im getting at is that all the girls were saying in the other thread "be honest and let them know your dating other girls", when in reality, thats a pretty stupid thing to do....

Pretty much. Girls never know WHAT they want. More often than not, girls will ask guys a question they REALLY don't want to know the answer to. (I'm guilty of it quite often)....and then they get the answer and it totally turns them off or upsets them. Go figure?

DookieLuv!

01-23-2007, 12:21 PM

Pretty much. Girls never know WHAT they want. More often than not, girls will ask guys a question they REALLY don't want to know the answer to. (I'm guilty of it quite often)....and then they get the answer and it totally turns them off or upsets them. Go figure?Atleast your man (woman) enough to admit it!!

Treysdad

01-23-2007, 01:54 PM

If a girl told me this, I would have to consider what her sexual activity is. I mean, to be just dating around is fine but once sexual activity starts with anyone, myself included then I would like to think we are exclusive and she wouldn't be dating anyone but said sexual partner unless she's a total skank. In that case, I wouldn't be dating her in the first place. If she can get dinner, a movie or go to a club and drink and I ain't gotta pay for it, cool.

SubyClassifieds

01-24-2007, 04:00 AM

So basically what Im getting at is that all the girls were saying in the other thread "be honest and let them know your dating other girls", when in reality, thats a pretty stupid thing to do....

I think the girls that wouldn't care, wont be found on any online forums (with the exception of myspace for hooking up with Ballers)

number_2

01-24-2007, 06:24 PM

alright, not only would i be thrilled with this scenario, but i would flat-out reject a guy who was prepared to jump straight into an exclusive arrangement.

DookieLuv!

01-24-2007, 06:34 PM

alright, not only would i be thrilled with this scenario, but i would flat-out reject a guy who was prepared to jump straight into an exclusive arrangement.Why? If he and a girl have a connection whats wrong with going for it? You would be thrilled if a guy you were interested in told you that he is dating 4 other girls along with you?

number_2

01-24-2007, 06:36 PM

he's not dating me. if the word "date" is invoked, i'm out.

DookieLuv!

01-24-2007, 06:40 PM

he's not dating me. if the word "date" is invoked, i'm out.Well what do you call it??

moldyhands

01-24-2007, 06:42 PM

alright, not only would i be thrilled with this scenario, but i would flat-out reject a guy who was prepared to jump straight into an exclusive arrangement.
sorry, but i think if a guy told you he was actively dating 3-4 other girls, you would not be happy with it. it's just better not to tell. when you first meet someone, it's not a lie to hold back personal information.

number_2

01-24-2007, 07:15 PM

dating involves pressure and expectations and formality and awkwardness. i don't date. i make friends.

and no, matt. it will never get to the point where i'll even consider going out with a guy if we aren't already close enough to have talked about things that are a shitload more personal than whether or not he's seeing someone else.

Jessica

01-24-2007, 08:54 PM

honestly it's not for everyone and i was kinda dating this guy who was completely honest when it came to that and now he's one of my closest friends he was dating 3 other girls at the time we were dating it didnt really bother me cuz it was just casual dating and i knew that i could trust him cuz he was so honest