whats your standpoint on cheating?

[Jordan T]

will you forgive someone who cheated on you, even if they were completely sober when they did? say you've only been with them for 3 months but you really enjoy being with them.

[Capital G]

hell no!

sober, not sober no difference for me. if you cheat once the trust is broken and i will always wonder if it will happen again.

[Goop]

Nope, dont forgive someone that could do that to you. That is a totally fucked up thing to do, kick a bitch to the curb!

[Jordan T]

i just dont know what to do. i value my relationship a lot but this shit just keeps getting to me. she wont admit it to me but there comes a point when you just kind of figure shit out, im not oblivious you know?

[Goop]

Say peace out man... Its hard believe me, I definately know its hard to walk away from something you like or even love, but you gotta realize you'd be making the biggest mistake to stay with that person and you'd be making a fool of yourself.

[Jordan T]

i agree, the main problem is is that i dont have proof. im not a paranoid person by any means but like i said above, eventually you just figure shit out.

ill try and post up all the details sometime soon.

[MianoSM]

Tell her you have trust issues and break up with her.

[Chuck 98 RT/10]

Three months isn't long enough for me to give a shit if they cheat or not.

[emilye84]

She's cheating at three months, sober? It's not going to work out in the long run, even if you forgive her now.

[:jen:]

Leave her. You may like her a lot, and it may hurt... but leaving now will save you heartache in the future when it happens again. Not only that, but she won't even admit it.. but you know. That shows she's not even trying to let you know she was wrong and that she wants to save the relationship.

I couldn't be with someone who cheated on me. That's the worst thing that can be done to a person in a relationship.

[J-Dizzle]

if you cheat once ,you will do it again. no trust. leave her

[Krystle Burger]

Would someone really say they're OK with cheating??? :nono:

[MianoSM]

Would someone really say they're OK with cheating??? :nono:

Didn't Chuck? :lol:

[KatieBang]

She's cheating at three months, sober? It's not going to work out in the long run, even if you forgive her now.

DING DING DING.

You can always say you "forgive" a person that has cheated on you, but things will never EVER be the same. You'll always wonder, question yourself, your partner, etc. The list goes on and on. I did this once with someone I was in a serious relationship with and it didn't work out in the long run. It just ate me up inside until the point where I couldn't handle it anymore and broke it off.

Do the right thing -- break up with her.

[Krystle Burger]

Didn't Chuck? :lol:

He doesn't count :lol:

[Treysdad]

You don't know for sure? Three months into a relationship and you're having trust issues. End it before you lose your mind. Seriously!

[Capital G]

so either she cheated on you or you have trust issues.

if she cheated you need to break up w. her NOW!

if she didnt and you keep asking/ blaiming her then she will break up w. you eventually anyway.

may i ask what makes you think she cheated if you have no proof and she denies it?

[John]

you could view this as a positive.

Find out as much information as you can to be absolutely sure what happened. Then, ask her about it. If she lies, leave her. If she's straight up about it, stick with it. Its a litmus test of sorts.

For me its about the dishonesty more than the act itself

[Queenie]

Cheating is grounds for dismissal, regardless if it's been 3 months, 3 years or 30 years.

[:jen:]

you could view this as a positive...

Yeah. You get to leave a cheating whore!

[TrackStar]

I would never stay with someone who cheated on me... fuckkkk that.

[Jordan T]

still thinking. i want to gather more info on the situation but i feel if i press it on any longer shell just dump me for asking too much.

every time i bring up the situation she almost breaks into tears, not to mention she looks extremely guilty when i ask her about it.

i dont know yet. theres little i can do to prove anything, im not going to call the guy up and ask him what went on.

[BeQuietAndDrive]

If you know the guy, why wouldn't you call him? I defiantly would if he can give you a yes or no answer.

All the stuff you said are characteristics of a guilty conscience. Dude, trust me and everyone else here, no matter how great you think she is, she's treating you like shit and you're putting up with it, just because you're scared she'll dump you.

I've been there and done that, right where you are now. Trust me man, just end it and stop putting yourself through bullshit drama.

[slowsohc]

hell no!

sober, not sober no difference for me. if you cheat once the trust is broken and i will always wonder if it will happen again.

Aint that the pot calling the kettle black.... ashley ring a bell...

Honestly I dont play that shit at all. No excuse is good enough for me.

[BAMF]

If my woman gets laid by another man she is out the fucking door. Period. I don't care how long we've been together.

[l2edneck]

You get to leave a cheating whore!



What makes said chick a whore?

because shes havin sex with more than one man?

Or being dishonest?

OT if three months and yer worried bro,Move On or ask yerself if you can be allrite with it.

[:jen:]

The fact that she's cheating on her bf and being dishonest.

If you want to fuck someone else, don't cheat. Leave.

[Capital G]

Aint that the pot calling the kettle black.... ashley ring a bell...

Honestly I dont play that shit at all. No excuse is good enough for me.

i cheated on ashley w. you. im allowed to cheat on her w. sexy men.

[Kelleb]

If you're really having to ask yourself all these questions, you've probably already gotten your answer.

Yes, there are exceptions to every rule. But, unless you happen to be dating Carmen Electra, it's probably time to give up.

[VenoMiss]

At 3 months, it's best to cut your losses before you waste any more time in someone who is taking you for granted. There's someone for everyone. Be strong and move on :strong:

[MitchMitchem]

Fuck her friends, and as many other people as possible.

[D-Roll]

FUCK NO! No matter what, cheating is cheating. Some people do get back together after that, and the one who was guilty has to deal with hell. So 9 times out of 10, the relationship doesn't work anyways.

[SSpiro]

She's cheating at three months, sober? It's not going to work out in the long run, even if you forgive her now.

Agreed.

[TrackStar]

Only time I'd want a girl to cheat on me was so I could have a good reason to leave her... yea. hehe

[BlackWind]

i have never been cheated on by anyone i care about, so i dont really know what i would do. I dont think i could live it down, and would probably have to end the relationship. I have enough trust issues as it is...

[Jordan T]

i think i might just bang this one chick from work, maybe in the ass who knows.

ill be satisfied then, my girlfriend wont even let me put it her butt so it all works out.

[SSpiro]

Do it. Take pics.

[MtuRbo2]

you said you were going to post details on the situation.

where are they!?!?!

[TrackStar]

i think i might just bang this one chick from work, maybe in the ass who knows.

ill be satisfied then, my girlfriend wont even let me put it her butt so it all works out.

do it and you will be a man among the rest of us men.

[Euphoria]

so much drama 3 months in, this is supposed to be the honeymoon period. I'd split.

[KatieBang]

i think i might just bang this one chick from work, maybe in the ass who knows.

ill be satisfied then, my girlfriend wont even let me put it her butt so it all works out.

Because cheating on her when you think SHE'S cheating is the right thing to do. :roll:

[BareLy UgLy]

Because cheating on her when you think SHE'S cheating is the right thing to do. :roll:

oh come on bang....an eye for an eye!

[BareLy UgLy]

^ i'm trying to understand you dan because in the short time i have been in tf, i really believe that you deserve that statement under your name.


but.....wtf did you say? :lol:

[fresh&clean]

Everyone makes mistakes right?
No ones perfect?

[turtleman]

I just wonder, what if you're on the other side of things? Let's forget about the girlfriend/boyfriend cheating thing. Say, you're the one who's single and you totally WANT/NEED/BLAH this other person who's already taken or even married. Let's say said person is also very attracted to you. Everything's all good; would you seduce that person though? Technically it's not "cheating", but you're the apple to the Eve right there.

[moldyhands]

every relationship i have been in where there was cheating, i have forgiven the person. it probably helps that every time there was cheating in a relationship, i was the cheater. but i learned how to forgive and forget...

[Double D]

I'm still waiting to hear from someone who thinks cheating is okay :lol:

[Jordan T]

katie it was a joke chill.

i have no proof of anything right now anyway so ill let it slide for now, everythings going good.

cheating is a solid no in my book.

alcohol is not an excuse, people know what alcohol does to them, and should be smart enough to avoid situations or handle themselves responsibly so there is no margin of error for something "accidental" to happen.

good way to put it! im using that for sure.

[SexyQueen]

will you forgive someone who cheated on you, even if they were completely sober when they did? say you've only been with them for 3 months but you really enjoy being with them.
Hell no... if they were dumb enough to cheat once.. then they will cheat again.. NO MATTER WHAT!!

[D-Roll]

It's only cheating if you are dumb enough to get caught...I could never forgive myself

[MtuRbo2]

ill try and post up all the details sometime soon.

how are you so sure she cheated on you? gut feeling? word of mouth?


details are key!

[The Spectacle]

For me its about the dishonesty more than the act itself

Hit the nail on the head. It says A LOT about a person when they can't take responsibility for their actions.

At that point it becomes less about what they did, but more about how they handle it.

Lying is way worse than cheating. Way worse. Of course, cheating is lying within itself but you get my point.

[Jordan T]

and now shit is lame again. i dont really know what to do. i have a gut instinct telling me to call it off but im just not so sure.

wft.

[LilBit]

hell no!

sober, not sober no difference for me. if you cheat once the trust is broken and i will always wonder if it will happen again.

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