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ThreeMuch
12-26-2007, 04:38 PM
"I don't want to be in a relationship, i want to be me by myself , not me and somebody else, i don't want to feel tied down and have expectations of me"
i say " so you want see other guys? just be honest"
her reply
" NO i dont want any guys at all, i just want to be alone for awhile do me ,be me. give me some time we need a break"
This is coming from some girl ive dated for 8 months, who invited me for thanksgiving, xmas, birthday etc dinners with her family, told me she loved me first and would tell me how i meant the world to her blah blah. she would call every morning and text me 20 times a day.She pulled me into her life not the other way around.
So ladies especially, does this smell of horeshit excuse to see another guy?
hacker style
12-26-2007, 04:42 PM
lol
I had the same reason thrown at me as a bag full of reasons from my girlfriend over 2.5 years.
To spite my best efforts, through the breakup, the attempted patching up of our relationship, and even to now, I have NOT been able to find any evidence of another man, be it for a fuck or a relationship. And I'm good at finding shit out. But I still have my suspscions.
So, in short, there is no easy answer to this. It depends on the girl. There are some that use it as a real reason, then there are others that use it because they're cuntbags and know other girls use it for a real reason.
she doesnt want to be with you and doesnt want to hurt your feelings cause you're probably a good friend to her. move on same shit happened with my gf of 2 years after alot of fighting
NeENeRs
12-26-2007, 04:49 PM
it means she thinks there's someone better out there and she wants to see if she can find them so she's feeding you that line of shit in a lame attempt to not hurt your feelings.
ThreeMuch
12-26-2007, 04:50 PM
Well its obvious she's not feeling the relationship anymore cause we have been bickering quite a bit but i think her reason is a crock of shit and she started talking to another guy behind my back not because she just wants to be alone and wants to be free like some waiting to exhale shit.
just wondering on opinions especially from the ladies
Krystle Burger
12-26-2007, 04:51 PM
Could be a reason to see another guy...or she might genuinely just not be ready to continue something so serious. I get those feelings all of the time when I get into a committed relationship. I have a very independent personality and that tends to cause a problem because expectations are ALWAYS there whether it's stated or not. If she brought up the words 'tied down' and 'expectations' in the same sentence, you might just want to give her some time and feel things out when communicating. It could be her desire to see someone else or just a desire to focus on other things in her life.
it means she thinks there's someone better out there and she wants to see if she can find them so she's feeding you that line of shit in a lame attempt to not hurt your feelings.
Damn, sometimes you can really lay it out there.
This thread makes me feel better about my situation that just won't seem to fucking end..I have to say.
Treysdad
12-26-2007, 05:28 PM
Best thing you can do is give her the space and time she is asking for. Feel her out and see how she responds to you in the future. I'm assuming the two of you will still communicate and remain friends. If she behaves like she normally does without the sex and commitment then I say you have nothing to worry about.
On the other hand, if the communication is not there, if she is cold to you, if she starts to go out more with her friends (that's an excuse every lying/cheating whore uses) then maybe something is up. You say you've been fighting alot lately. Mind me asking about what? Is it little things? Maybe she sees you as too posessive/jealous after only 8 months.
In any case, take this "break" and go get you some ass. Doesn't matter what she does. If she wants to be with you, she'll be back. If not, at least you haven't lost a step in your game.
OR
You can sit at home and wonder what "could have" been. Don't be that guy that sits at home doing nothing but thinking about some skank who broke his heart.
moldyhands
12-26-2007, 05:40 PM
she doesnt want to be with you and doesnt want to hurt your feelings cause you're probably a good friend to her. move on same shit happened with my gf of 2 years after alot of fighting
this guy's right. she just doesn't want to be with you and she's convinced herself that she needs to be alone to find herself. personally i always hated that idea. not because i don't think the girl should be alone, just because i think it's stupid to purposely be single or purposely stay in a relationship when it's not the best thing.
regardless, she's not interested in you so move on. try to get going away sex and give her an STD if you really wanna fuck her over.
In any case, take this "break" and go get you some ass. Doesn't matter what she does. If she wants to be with you, she'll be back. If not, at least you haven't lost a step in your game.
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BINGO!
Perfect answer, take this and go to the bank with it.
ThreeMuch
12-26-2007, 06:34 PM
On the other hand, if the communication is not there, if she is cold to you, if she starts to go out more with her friends (that's an excuse every lying/cheating whore uses) then maybe something is up. You say you've been fighting alot lately. Mind me asking about what? Is it little things? Maybe she sees you as too posessive/jealous after only 8 months.
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Funny you say this. We got into a big arguement about 2 weeks ago now and weve just kind of never got over the hump even though she still invited me to xmas dinner last night which was just a bad idea becuase ever since the fight we havent talked near as much or really had any kind of sex i think maybe twice in those 2 weeks and she has been cold to me since the fight.
So the bickering? well the bickering was about one of her quote unquote guy "friends" who always ends up in her big group of going out friends and the guy always flirts and tries to get touchy with her.
Well way back like 3 months ago when i went out with her which i HAVENT since this situation happened. We went, out course the kids there. he got drunk and he pretty much told me yeah i think shes hot, but its really not like that between me and her BUT if something happened you know, it would be cool.
Im like WTF, this kid just pretty much admitted he thinks my girl is hot and would fuck her to my face. i just walked away.
After that happened i told her, hey you know so and so said this. she was like oh you're lying he never told you that. Im like whatever don't believe me but if you respect me and this relation means anything to you, you should address this situation and maybe put some space between you and that kid because he obviously has taken you being friendly to him the wrong way
Long story short she never has, and about 2 weeks ago he was just brought up again and we got into it again about the kid and she pretty much told me to get fucked and shes going to hang out with whoever she wants and i need to stop being jealous and insecure. i told her it was about respect and nothing more because i wouldnt do it to her. After that the urge to make up like we have before just wasn't there on my end and apparently hers either even though she did make a small attempt.
P.S keep in mind this girl flips out if a girl even texts me, which she has plenty of times
Treysdad
12-26-2007, 06:45 PM
Based on what you just said, here's my thoughts. She probably has been interested in this guy for a while. That's usually one reason women keep certain "male" friends. Maybe she didn't think he was into her but now that you've told her different, it's quite possible that she confronted him and he admitted it. Therefore, making her realize what a skank she is for even hooking up with you in the first place when the guy she was interested in was ready and willing this whole time.
Like I said, give her the space and time she wants but DO NOT let that affect your game. If she decides she doesn't want to be with you, at least you'll have lived during said "break".
Oh and as far as her flipping out about other girls texting you? Maybe she has a guilty conscience. Only scandalous whores act that way.
ThreeMuch
12-26-2007, 07:04 PM
yeah man she rationalizes this kid still being around as he has other friends in the group so she can't control where he shows up and who cares if he told me that i should take it as a compliment and not worry cause she doesn't want him in that way.
I'm like WTF if roles were reversed you would go ape shit on me and i simply told you to put some space there. then i was jealous and controlling, whatever.
You can believe im going to do my thing man, the sudden coldness, no sex and the reasons she gave me that i stated in the original post just reeks of bullshit, atleast to me
Chuck 98 RT/10
12-26-2007, 07:20 PM
She is already banging somebody else.
The smart play for you is to just tell her, "I understand honey, but if you ever just wanna fuck me with no strings attached, maybe get a quickie in once in a while, I'll make time for you. And I promise I won't spend the night."
nikki.
12-26-2007, 07:58 PM
it means she thinks there's someone better out there and she wants to see if she can find them so she's feeding you that line of shit in a lame attempt to not hurt your feelings.
Exactly. Or she thinks that she already has found that person and wants to try it out with them. She just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If you find out later that she is banging someone, she is probably going to say, "It just happened ..." or "But we have such great chemistry ...." (meaning with this other person)
She could be different, but more than likely, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
VenoMiss
12-26-2007, 08:26 PM
At first I got the impression that she was moving too fast and laying it on real thick too soon. 8 months is a decent amount of time to see if you wanna take it futher with someone or not. I thought maybe she realized she was losing her identity a lil in the relationship and wanted some down time to focus on herself. Which is a good thing. The fact that she did communicate with you and told you exactly what she wanted is a good thing. Which was space. It's better than being a sneaky hoe.
But if she got defensive just cause you brought up the fact that she was hanging out with this guy, then there may already be some feelings developing between them. You can't help that the guy is being a cock block, cause thats what guys do. But she prob feels guilty and was taking that out on you by being a bitch to you just cause you mentioned it. Which is not cool.
You may never get the answer you wanna hear from her. So, make the decision for yourself and don't place your life on hold for her. My advice is to MOVE ON. Be single and have fun. She won't be the only girl you'll ever have strong feelings for.
VenoMiss
12-26-2007, 08:30 PM
It sounds to me like she's the one thats jealous and insecure. Not you. thats why she feels the need to hop from one guy to another just to make her feel good about herself. Cut your losses. Atleast you didn't invest years into her sorry ass.
billybongthorton
12-26-2007, 08:45 PM
dont hide from it bro, you turned her into a vaginatarian lmao
RSXTC
12-26-2007, 10:56 PM
bitches are crazy.........
your welcome.
TrackStar
12-27-2007, 10:35 AM
"I don't want to be in a relationship, i want to be me by myself , not me and somebody else, i don't want to feel tied down and have expectations of me"
i say " so you want see other guys? just be honest"
her reply
" NO i dont want any guys at all, i just want to be alone for awhile do me ,be me. give me some time we need a break"
This is coming from some girl ive dated for 8 months, who invited me for thanksgiving, xmas, birthday etc dinners with her family, told me she loved me first and would tell me how i meant the world to her blah blah. she would call every morning and text me 20 times a day.She pulled me into her life not the other way around.
So ladies especially, does this smell of horeshit excuse to see another guy?
If you want to keep her this is what you have to do:
IGNORE HER UNTILL SHES IS BEGGING AT YOUR FEET FOR YOU TO COME BACK TO HER.
I swear to god it works. If you dont do this and you want to be with her then you fail at life. Women are stupid.
slowsohc
12-27-2007, 01:43 PM
it means she thinks there's someone better out there and she wants to see if she can find them so she's feeding you that line of shit in a lame attempt to not hurt your feelings.
Agreed.
Jessica
12-27-2007, 01:57 PM
or maybe it means that she needs time to find herself. i had to find myself basically i've always been in a relationship. it's always been jessica and some guy,never just jessica. i needed to see what life had to offer with me being single (not meaning other guys) i wanted to travel, go to school, and do other things. i needed to know i can be defined as me and not by my relationship. i don't know if that means anything but for me that was a genuine reason for me to be single for a while.there's always that saying how can you love someone else when you don't love yourself but how can you love yourself if you don't know who you are.
Strangeholliday
12-27-2007, 03:17 PM
If you want to keep her this is what you have to do:
IGNORE HER UNTILL SHES IS BEGGING AT YOUR FEET FOR YOU TO COME BACK TO HER.
I swear to god it works. If you dont do this and you want to be with her then you fail at life. Women are stupid.
exactafuckinmundo.
The reason doesn't matter, It probly took alot out of her to even say that she needs a break from this relationship, just let her go
BlackWind
12-27-2007, 06:29 PM
horseshit excuse, youre being played. Disregard all other posts that state the contrary. If she truly liked/loved you, then she would know that she wants to be with you. Chick is feeling out the other guy, kind of making sure he is okay. Then, if he is, youre gone. If he isnt, shell be herself again and he will be gone. Either way, youre being played.
Ditch the bitch...
Cornwalace
12-27-2007, 10:12 PM
Dude, you're being an over-protective boy that should trust her with all men because you mean the world to her, and you won't ever find anyone else like her.
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ThreeMuch
12-28-2007, 08:33 PM
Update: I go out last night and we just happen to be in the same place shes in a big group and of course whos there with her other than the guy mentioned in earlier post, right by her side all night. you know the "friend"
The guy who quote " i don't even talk to him really, he's ugly i don't want him in that way, i want you blah blah"
Yeah well so long story short, coincidence can only go so far, i'll play the fool but not the retard so she got a full beer right in the face on my way out, end of that fairy tale
Update: I go out last night and we just happen to be in the same place shes in a big group and of course whos there with her other than the guy mentioned in earlier post, right by her side all night. you know the "friend"
The guy who quote " i don't even talk to him really, he's ugly i don't want him in that way, i want you blah blah"
Yeah well so long story short, coincidence can only go so far, i'll play the fool but not the retard so she got a full beer right in the face on my way out, end of that fairy tale
:lol: good deal with the beer in the face!
thereturnofdark
12-28-2007, 09:15 PM
it means she thinks there's someone better out there and she wants to see if she can find them so she's feeding you that line of shit in a lame attempt to not hurt your feelings.
+1 to put it in simpler terms....you don't sell a car that you like unless you're interested in getting a newer/better model
BlackWind
12-28-2007, 09:18 PM
beer in face ftw...
Na306StAnG
12-29-2007, 07:20 PM
"I don't want to be in a relationship, i want to be me by myself , not me and somebody else, i don't want to feel tied down and have expectations of me"
I kinda went through the same shit not to long ago. Be careful how you deal with this, I went about it the wrong way myself and not only did i lose her as a G/F I lost a true friend.
I say give her the space she wants and see what happens i know it sucks but only time will tell.
Cornwalace
12-29-2007, 09:56 PM
she got a full beer right in the face on my way out
rep.
I'm Phucked
12-29-2007, 10:20 PM
Ok she isn't ready so leave her be Shit if you can go after her hot friend. It sounds like commitment issues so the best thing you can do is point and laugh at her when all the keepers she had she tossed for the oh shit my period is late loser.
and I have been there and have laughed at a couple of exes that kept the "he was cute I was drunk mistake"
EnsenCorp
12-30-2007, 12:31 AM
Yeah well so long story short, coincidence can only go so far, i'll play the fool but not the retard so she got a full beer right in the face on my way out, end of that fairy tale
Dude. You are my hero. Rep for you
Girls (most) aint nothing but bad news. I've heard lines like that before......the best thing you can do is laugh in their face and let them catch you fucking their best friend.
You've dealt with the situation quite well, this is more of my two cents for all other guys that will fall into similar situations such as this. It happens to the best of us
violentlydave
12-31-2007, 09:13 AM
Yeah well so long story short, coincidence can only go so far, i'll play the fool but not the retard so she got a full beer right in the face on my way out, end of that fairy tale
Bahahaha. You .. are now a super hero.
And I heard this "I just want to be by myself" crap years ago with one of the first girls I actually loved. Broke my bitter, sarcastic heart. She started dating some law student she'd been hanging around a week later. They eventually married.
I moved on, kicked my career into high gear, got my shit together. She married him, got fat, he got fired a number of times... hrm.. can't seem to feel hurt about it anymore..
dave
yah...shes @ a party right now drunk thinking about you..had way to many and just waking up to 6 guys behind her having a good time...she has never loved you more till she wakes up!
type-j-spec
01-01-2008, 10:56 AM
sounds like she wants to club it up with different guys.
Notladstyle
01-01-2008, 01:42 PM
yah...shes @ a party right now drunk thinking about you..had way to many and just waking up to 6 guys behind her having a good time...she has never loved you more till she wakes up!
haha no. If shes drunk, at a party, shes thinking about getting laid/making it home before the ruffie she drank accidentally kicked in.
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