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SmartAssChick
05-05-2008, 12:07 AM
I have a close friend who always gets the 3-4 year itch. She falls in love and has a LTR for 3-5 years, and inevitably breaks up with her SO b/c she "falls out of love. The excitement isn't there anymore."

She's currently married but is thinking about divorcing her husband, who treats her like a queen. She claims she married him for the idea of marriage and after 5 yrs, she doesn't want to deny him the right to be happy with someone who is really in love with him. I agree with her on that score, but I'm confused as to her behavior. She projects confidence in herself and is successful in her career. She's never cheated on anyone that I know of.

Any thoughts? Does anyone know of anyone like this?
NeENeRs
05-05-2008, 07:08 AM
she probably should tell him that she's getting bored so he knows THEY need to spice things up. Notice the emphasis on THEY. it's not just his fault that she's getting bored.... she needs to put some effort in too. relationships aren't supposed to be easy, sometimes they need work. it looks like the moment things get dull or difficult she wants to bail.

ask her if she ever thought about getting marriage counseling. i know a couple of couples who go it and it completely changed their relationship. one of them weren't even married, just in a LTR. sometimes you can't figure shit out on your own and need a voice of reason that doesn't have a biased opinion.

i used to be a habitual "bailer." i got bored wayyyyy too easily and would just peace out, not giving a shit. i didn't want to "talk about it" or work on things; i just wanted out. now i actually don't mind sticking around and working on shit.

homegirl needs to grow up.
MianoSM
05-05-2008, 07:26 AM
Tell her to get a cute pool boy named Juan. :dunno:

Marriage counseling would probably be the better route.....
Chuck 98 RT/10
05-05-2008, 07:40 AM
If she were a man I would suggest getting some strange. For a man nothing helps a relationship like getting some strange.

Women aren't like that. She needs to get divorced and never marry again until she is 50.
oh1coupe
05-05-2008, 07:51 AM
NeENeRs pretty much nailed it. I got married once too young, then swore it off all together, until i was dating enough to understand that infatuation is really only skin deep. True love is demonstrated by a couple which fall in and out of infatuation with eachother, but stick to their commitment, because the other is depending on them to. Dont get me wrong, alot of people let the relationship dwindle to nothing, and spitefully stay together..and thats not what im talking about. Your friend sounds a little immature.
oh1coupe
05-05-2008, 07:52 AM
If she were a man I would suggest getting some strange. For a man nothing helps a relationship like getting some strange.

Women aren't like that. She needs to get divorced and never marry again until she is 50.



bwahhaha....OR they could go swinging.
Karma
05-05-2008, 08:33 AM
If she bounces from guy to guy then she shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
Tell me her sign and I could tell you more lOl.
billybongthorton
05-05-2008, 09:05 AM
gimmie her name and her number and ill fuck her in ways she never thought possibleeven if shes a wildabeast of a woman
Jessica
05-05-2008, 09:13 AM
If she bounces from guy to guy then she shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
Tell me her sign and I could tell you more lOl.

she sounds like an aries:dunno:
Holly Golightly
05-05-2008, 10:09 AM
Sounds like me. Except I've always seemed to be 2 years.
Strangeholliday
05-05-2008, 11:12 AM
Sounds like me. Except I've always seemed to be 2 years.

coming up on a renewal aren't we?
GlacierFreeze
05-05-2008, 03:48 PM
...even if shes a wildabeast of a woman

:lmao: I thought I was getting bad!
Treysdad
05-05-2008, 04:23 PM
Sounds like me. Except I've always seemed to be 2 years.

Guess that means you'll be single before too long :lmao:
Holly Golightly
05-05-2008, 04:28 PM
Well, suprisingly I haven't contemplated looking yet. So theres a chance I broke my streak!


Every single relationship I've had I've left the person at either 2 months or 2 years. I can't figure it out!
Treysdad
05-05-2008, 04:33 PM
Well, suprisingly I haven't contemplated looking yet. So theres a chance I broke my streak!


Every single relationship I've had I've left the person at either 2 months or 2 years. I can't figure it out!


Maybe this time it will be 2 years and 2 months. Ryan better watch his back :eek:
Penis
05-05-2008, 04:36 PM
Maybe this time it will be 2 years and 2 months. Ryan better watch his back :eek:



He won't have a choice if history repeats itself. No I am not being bitter just raw facts. I wish everyone the best sincerely.
Holly Golightly
05-05-2008, 04:37 PM
:lmao:


Nah, he's got money. I'm not going anywhere.



Edit: Nick, :squint:
Penis
05-05-2008, 04:40 PM
:lmao:


Nah, he's got money. I'm not going anywhere.



Edit: Nick, :squint:



Oh please the guy before me didn't have a chance and neither did I. You are good people just stay with this one.
Iroc Joe
05-05-2008, 04:42 PM
homegirl needs to grow up.

Condensed to the truth.