Home Forums Register My TF Groups Chat Profile Search Gallery TF Store User CP Calendar Quick Links FAQ Log Out
 

Go Back   Tampa Forums > Common Interest > Sex and Relationships

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 09-05-2007, 07:55 PM   #1 (permalink)
Krystle Burger
Just telling it how it is
 
Krystle Burger's Avatar
 
Location: New Tampa
Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !
Living together before marriage...

Seems like the smartest route to go, in my opinion. I would think that you tend to learn a LOT more about your significant other while living with them. you figure out what you can handle, what you can't, and also how to deal with finances together, and I'm sure a billion other things (don't know since I've never lived with a boyfriend)...all prior to making that huge commitment. Because marriage is such a huge thing to me, I don't intend on getting married to someone prior to living with them.

I bring this up because: The other day I was talking to a guy who says that he always pictured himself getting married and then him and his wife go to their new "home" together (for their first time). I told him that the old-fashioned way sounded ideal, cute, and all that - but I just think that would be a pretty risky move...considering the divorce rate in this country.

Opinions, thoughts?
Krystle Burger is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 08:03 PM   #2 (permalink)
moldyhands
Porno Music Producer
 
moldyhands's Avatar
 
Location: Bogota, Colombia
moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !moldyhands User is effing awesome !
i think you should not live together while married. this would undoubtedly cut down on the divorce rate. however, the woman should come over to the man's place every night and cook him dinner and bang him before leaving to spend the night in her shack in the back yard.
moldyhands is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 08:03 PM   #3 (permalink)
Chuck 98 RT/10
Sexist
 
Chuck 98 RT/10's Avatar
 
Location: Tampa
Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !Chuck 98 RT/10 User is effing awesome !
I used to think not living together would be the one last bastion of virginity two people could share with each other. Unfortunately I was the only one on the planet that thought that and now I don't even advocate marriage.

My how we change as we age. For better or worse.
Chuck 98 RT/10 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 08:09 PM   #4 (permalink)
BlackWind
U.S. Army
 
BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !
i think its a good idea, and i also think people give up on relationships in america WAY too easy...marriage included...
BlackWind is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 08:11 PM   #5 (permalink)
Krystle Burger
Just telling it how it is
 
Krystle Burger's Avatar
 
Location: New Tampa
Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !Krystle Burger User is effing awesome !
Quote:
Originally Posted by Modman View Post
i also think people give up on relationships in america WAY too easy...marriage included...
I'm with you there.
Krystle Burger is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 08:17 PM   #6 (permalink)
BlackWind
U.S. Army
 
BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !
its way too true. People dont communicate enough, and it kills relationships...they dont care enough either. People should try harder than they do to make things work, cause when they do, its like gold...
BlackWind is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 09:03 PM   #7 (permalink)
atreyu06
^is rocking the SOHC^
 
atreyu06's Avatar
 
Location: St. Petersburg, FL
atreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond reputeatreyu06 has a reputation beyond repute
I'm with you on communication the whole way, well that and i think people take the theres alot of other fish in the sea way too literal... "this isn't the way i imagined it and im not gonna say anything but oh well theres other fish in the sea." = bullshit and lazy
atreyu06 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 09:10 PM   #8 (permalink)
juke
Ghetto, Like Josh Stevens
 
juke's Avatar
 
Location: Tampa, FL
juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !juke User is effing awesome !
Personally, I think it is a good idea. I have some friends who got married without living with each other and things are working out well for them, but if they do have problems, it isn't going to be because of that.
juke is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 09:17 PM   #9 (permalink)
Mars_302
Race Photographer
 
Mars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond reputeMars_302 has a reputation beyond repute
I at least need to know your sleeping habits
Mars_302 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 09:20 PM   #10 (permalink)
J-Dizzle
Still Addicted to Boost
 
J-Dizzle's Avatar
 
Location: Land O' Lakes
J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !J-Dizzle User is effing awesome !
if u cant deal with your problems in a mear boyfriend girlfriend relationship i dont see how you could do it married. i for one would rather live together for a while and make sure its right for me and that shes the one.
J-Dizzle is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 09:32 PM   #11 (permalink)
Bite_Size
עִמָּנוּ אֵל
 
Bite_Size's Avatar
 
Location: Brandon
Bite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond reputeBite_Size has a reputation beyond repute
i'm currently in that position and my advice is to go for it! we live in a new age and spending the rest of ur life with some1 now-a-days is so important because of whats mentioned before divorce rates. now its not always easy but its well worth ur time and effort to spend a few years living with the one in ur life than to be hasty and move in together possibly have (a) child(ren) and then spend a hefty amount of money and time where on the other hand ake that commitment after u have already been thru the thick and thin times and have experience dealing with it.not to mention if u already have a child with this person or have future plans on having one save alot of drama and heart-ache on ur child(ren).
IMO
Bite_Size is online now  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 10:25 PM   #12 (permalink)
R6Mitsu
RAYS > OBAMA
 
R6Mitsu's Avatar
 
Location: Port Richey
R6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond reputeR6Mitsu has a reputation beyond repute
Living together prior to marraige is almost a must. You dont buy a car without test driving it first right? But the ideal situation is the two in the relationship having their own places but both being together at either place without actually living together. That way you can know each others habits, routines without actually sharing the residence. Another good point to this set up is the fact that if she cant keep her legs shut with other guys, then there is nothing lost. You still have your place and she still has hers. The stuff inside the house may be a little torched, but it's still hers. And the guy still has a fridge full of beer.
R6Mitsu is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-05-2007, 11:25 PM   #13 (permalink)
BlackWind
U.S. Army
 
BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !BlackWind User is effing awesome !
^no wonder you have such negative rep, youre an idiot...
BlackWind is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-06-2007, 12:02 AM   #14 (permalink)
MianoSM
Custom User Title
 
MianoSM's Avatar
 
Location: 127.0.0.1
MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !MianoSM User is effing awesome !
I'm not a big advocate for marriage in the first place, however, if I were to get married I would think a shared accommodation for at least some duration of time should happen.

I just couldn't let myself marry a girl without living with her. Too much of a jump - graduation is there for a reason....
MianoSM is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-06-2007, 12:14 AM   #15 (permalink)
adrian_302
Caribbean Queen
 
adrian_302's Avatar
 
Location: Tampa
adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !adrian_302 User is effing awesome !
krystle you can always come live with me if you wanna find out
adrian_302 is offline  
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!
Reply With Quote
Old 09-06-2007, 12:36 AM   #16 (permalink)