Living together before marriage... - Page 3

Rotary7 · 09-07-2007, 03:31 PM

My current g/f I told her I loved her after the first week and then moved her in not even 2 weeks later..

Homeless chicks will worship the ground you walk on.

j/k

The female im with,we been together on and off for about a year.Recently we decided to cut the bullshit games and work on us.

You truely dont know someone till you live with them.Even though we dont live together,she has spent a week here straight at times here at my place and works 5-10 mins down the road from my house.

Theres still things she does while here,wash my dishes and help clean.But tell you the truth.It annoys me

We had planned in the past if things got serious we would move in together,but after a year..

I dont like shit to be set on a time frame,but id rather give it time than to rush it.Cause its harder to get rid of them if you have ties like that.

Panzerbane · 09-07-2007, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by brandonloserkid

DAMN! Thats quick. If it's working though, its definitely not a bad thing. Congrats.

This Jan will be 3 yrs together. From our comically bad first kiss, to gassing her mom out in the back seat of our car on a long drive, to watching her almost piss herself when I dragged her on to Mantuu at Busch Gardens...

Oh the wonderful memories.

Double D · 09-08-2007, 07:14 AM

I would have to live with someone before I married them. I'm not getting married, though, so I don't have anything to worry about

**Treysdad** · 09-08-2007, 11:38 AM

So you and the roomie are testing things out

J-Dizzle · 09-08-2007, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by TreysDad

So you and the roomie are testing things out

**Krystle Burger** · 09-08-2007, 12:18 PM

hahahahahahahahaha NO.

cherbear · 09-12-2007, 07:55 PM

My husband talked about us getting married after we were dating for only a month if that. Than at 6 months into the relationship he actually proposed. We moved in together and lived together for a year than we got married. We have been together for over 3 years now.

**Sneakin Deacon** · 09-13-2007, 03:48 AM

I would definately reccomend it...I've done it once, and glad i did even though the relationship didnt work.

I wouldn't say its something to rush into, i would have to be with someone a few months before even considering taking the next step and moving in together, as there is alot to think about...who is moving in with who, how big is the place, is it going to be strenuous for a work life, do you/them have a fall back plan if things go south, etc.

i wont go into mine too much, but i found out some personal things she did, that i just wanted no part of. and also how she was so quick to start an argument, but never wanted to talk about it. you find those little things out over time. just dont rush into anything.

**Kelleb** · 09-13-2007, 11:24 AM

I've been with Rich for 4 years. We do not live together.

I think living together is fine if your relationship is grounded. I think many times people move in together too soon or for the wrong reasons and end up staying in a relationship they otherwise would not.

I also think it's a crock if you move in with a SO before you've ever lived on your own. You need to experience and find yourself before you can give that much to another person.

Now, when Rich and I finally do get married, I'm sure we'll be living together for a little while before. Probably no more than a year. Who knows...

TURACE24 · 09-14-2007, 12:43 AM

Question is.. what is more socially acceptible..Personally i think that living together before marriage is perfectly logical. IE pretty much all the reasons mentioned. But studies prove otherwise.....20-30 years ago it never happened now it does... If you have an old fashioned family, chances are it will be a real difficult situation. Being that im in the middle of buying a house.. I decided to live there while my girlfriend lives with her family. She comes over, cooks, cleans, provides hours of sex... At that point she has the option of going home, or spending then night, either or is fine with me.. I think its important to communicate the moving in decision with family and SO to see where everyone stands.

Greed is Good · 09-14-2007, 02:45 AM

Deffintly living together before getting married is better i would think. Within the next couple of months my g/f will move in with me, if it goes great i just might have to pop the question.

TSX24L · 09-21-2007, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Krystle Burger

Seems like the smartest route to go, in my opinion. I would think that you tend to learn a LOT more about your significant other while living with them. you figure out what you can handle, what you can't, and also how to deal with finances together, and I'm sure a billion other things (don't know since I've never lived with a boyfriend)...all prior to making that huge commitment. Because marriage is such a huge thing to me, I don't intend on getting married to someone prior to living with them.

I bring this up because: The other day I was talking to a guy who says that he always pictured himself getting married and then him and his wife go to their new "home" together (for their first time). I told him that the old-fashioned way sounded ideal, cute, and all that - but I just think that would be a pretty risky move...considering the divorce rate in this country.

Opinions, thoughts?

I agree. You do learn alot about each other. I know me and my girl can work through anything together and say anything to each other. It does help open yourself up to each other then it would to be apart. It really depends on the person your with. I think a strong relationship is two that can talk about anything to each other and have fun and trust each other.

**MianoSM** · 09-21-2007, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by TSX24L

I agree. You do learn alot about each other. I know me and my girl can work through anything together and say anything to each other. It does help open yourself up to each other then it would to be apart. It really depends on the person your with. I think a strong relationship is two that can talk about anything to each other and have fun and trust each other.

Yea, you can't stay with someone when your afraid to say certain things around them, its a super downer.

Cornwalace · 09-22-2007, 12:13 PM

There's a limited amount of time before marriage that I believe it would be ok for two people to live together. I used to also be under the assumption that it was pure sin to live, much less have sex with, someone before marriage.

My new theory is that I will not marry until after dating for a good year. During that dating period, I hope to live by myself for at least six months, then, possibly have her move in with me (or whatever we arrange) after that.

CivicRcR07 · 09-24-2007, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by moldyhands

i think you should not live together while married. this would undoubtedly cut down on the divorce rate. however, the woman should come over to the man's place every night and cook him dinner and bang him before leaving to spend the night in her shack in the back yard.

lmao wow.

I think a couple should live together before moving on to the next step....im learning ALOT about my girl whom i just moved in with about 2 months ago

TampaDude · 09-25-2007, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Krystle Burger

Seems like the smartest route to go, in my opinion. I would think that you tend to learn a LOT more about your significant other while living with them. you figure out what you can handle, what you can't, and also how to deal with finances together, and I'm sure a billion other things (don't know since I've never lived with a boyfriend)...all prior to making that huge commitment. Because marriage is such a huge thing to me, I don't intend on getting married to someone prior to living with them.

I bring this up because: The other day I was talking to a guy who says that he always pictured himself getting married and then him and his wife go to their new "home" together (for their first time). I told him that the old-fashioned way sounded ideal, cute, and all that - but I just think that would be a pretty risky move...considering the divorce rate in this country.

Opinions, thoughts?

I agree 100%

My wife and I lived together for a year and a half before getting married. Been happily married for over 11 years now.

It's one thing to date someone, and another thing entirely to be in each other's face every day under the same roof. You should know if you can deal with each other's quirks/idiosyncrasies/annoying habits/etc before tying the knot.

Just my .02...

TampaDude · 09-25-2007, 01:35 AM

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Originally Posted by TURACE24

Question is.. what is more socially acceptible..Personally i think that living together before marriage is perfectly logical. IE pretty much all the reasons mentioned. But studies prove otherwise.....20-30 years ago it never happened now it does... If you have an old fashioned family, chances are it will be a real difficult situation. Being that im in the middle of buying a house.. I decided to live there while my girlfriend lives with her family. She comes over, cooks, cleans, provides hours of sex... At that point she has the option of going home, or spending then night, either or is fine with me.. I think its important to communicate the moving in decision with family and SO to see where everyone stands.

What studies? Who did them? Got any links?

RSXTC · 09-25-2007, 10:41 AM

you are 100% right, You should live with your girl before you marry her..Ive lived with my ex and that made me wanna break up with her. which means..i shouldn't marry her....right?

Krystal...You should experience this before you talk about it. I know you like to post, you only have 7,000 posts. There is nothing wrong with you talking about this with no experience, but Wait till you live with your b/f you will have plenty of stories..your either gonna say it was the best time of your life..or the worst. SOrry for jumpin on you.

**Krystle Burger** · 09-25-2007, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by RSXTC

you are 100% right, You should live with your girl before you marry her..Ive lived with my ex and that made me wanna break up with her. which means..i shouldn't marry her....right?

Krystal...You should experience this before you talk about it. I know you like to post, you only have 7,000 posts. There is nothing wrong with you talking about this with no experience, but Wait till you live with your b/f you will have plenty of stories..your either gonna say it was the best time of your life..or the worst. SOrry for jumpin on you.

WTF?

That made no sense at all. I'm not saying that I have experience, I was simply giving my opinion. And if you know how to read you would know that in my opinion I feel that it's BEST for people to live together first - so that you don't discover those annoying habits later on and decide that you can't handle it.

So were you AGREEING with me? Or disagreeing?

Because what you said doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

RSXTC · 09-25-2007, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Krystle Burger

WTF?

That made no sense at all. I'm not saying that I have experience, I was simply giving my opinion. And if you know how to read you would know that in my opinion I feel that it's BEST for people to live together first - so that you don't discover those annoying habits later on and decide that you can't handle it.

So were you AGREEING with me? Or disagreeing?

Because what you said doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

so your laughing??

...you seemed pretty angry...over what , I don't know...Suck it up...im a E-dick...i was kinda making fun of how much you post..but who cares..you obviously don't ( you do the posting). GIVE BLOOD OR DIE.....

Im sorry, was i being too mean again?

09-14-2007, 12:43 AM	#50 (permalink)
TURACE24 Registered User Location: Spring HIll	hmmm Question is.. what is more socially acceptible..Personally i think that living together before marriage is perfectly logical. IE pretty much all the reasons mentioned. But studies prove otherwise.....20-30 years ago it never happened now it does... If you have an old fashioned family, chances are it will be a real difficult situation. Being that im in the middle of buying a house.. I decided to live there while my girlfriend lives with her family. She comes over, cooks, cleans, provides hours of sex... At that point she has the option of going home, or spending then night, either or is fine with me.. I think its important to communicate the moving in decision with family and SO to see where everyone stands.

09-07-2007, 03:31 PM	#41 (permalink)
Rotary7 Get Down-Or-Stay Down Location: 813	My current g/f I told her I loved her after the first week and then moved her in not even 2 weeks later.. Homeless chicks will worship the ground you walk on. j/k The female im with,we been together on and off for about a year.Recently we decided to cut the bullshit games and work on us. You truely dont know someone till you live with them.Even though we dont live together,she has spent a week here straight at times here at my place and works 5-10 mins down the road from my house. Theres still things she does while here,wash my dishes and help clean.But tell you the truth.It annoys me We had planned in the past if things got serious we would move in together,but after a year.. I dont like shit to be set on a time frame,but id rather give it time than to rush it.Cause its harder to get rid of them if you have ties like that.

09-08-2007, 07:14 AM	#43 (permalink)
Double D Doesn't mean breast size Location: Hudson	I would have to live with someone before I married them. I'm not getting married, though, so I don't have anything to worry about

09-08-2007, 11:38 AM	#44 (permalink)
Treysdad Now taking applications! Location: Peeking in your window!	So you and the roomie are testing things out

09-08-2007, 12:18 PM	#46 (permalink)
Krystle Burger Just telling it how it is Location: New Tampa	hahahahahahahahaha NO.

09-12-2007, 07:55 PM	#47 (permalink)
cherbear ________ Location: St. Pete	My husband talked about us getting married after we were dating for only a month if that. Than at 6 months into the relationship he actually proposed. We moved in together and lived together for a year than we got married. We have been together for over 3 years now.

09-13-2007, 03:48 AM	#48 (permalink)
Sneakin Deacon PSSHHH x2 Location: The Burg	I would definately reccomend it...I've done it once, and glad i did even though the relationship didnt work. I wouldn't say its something to rush into, i would have to be with someone a few months before even considering taking the next step and moving in together, as there is alot to think about...who is moving in with who, how big is the place, is it going to be strenuous for a work life, do you/them have a fall back plan if things go south, etc. i wont go into mine too much, but i found out some personal things she did, that i just wanted no part of. and also how she was so quick to start an argument, but never wanted to talk about it. you find those little things out over time. just dont rush into anything.

09-13-2007, 11:24 AM	#49 (permalink)
Kelleb Realtor Location: Zephyrhills	I've been with Rich for 4 years. We do not live together. I think living together is fine if your relationship is grounded. I think many times people move in together too soon or for the wrong reasons and end up staying in a relationship they otherwise would not. I also think it's a crock if you move in with a SO before you've ever lived on your own. You need to experience and find yourself before you can give that much to another person. Now, when Rich and I finally do get married, I'm sure we'll be living together for a little while before. Probably no more than a year. Who knows...

09-14-2007, 02:45 AM	#51 (permalink)
Greed is Good Registered User Location: Tampa	Deffintly living together before getting married is better i would think. Within the next couple of months my g/f will move in with me, if it goes great i just might have to pop the question.

09-22-2007, 12:13 PM	#54 (permalink)
Cornwalace Awesome User Location: Lakeland	There's a limited amount of time before marriage that I believe it would be ok for two people to live together. I used to also be under the assumption that it was pure sin to live, much less have sex with, someone before marriage. My new theory is that I will not marry until after dating for a good year. During that dating period, I hope to live by myself for at least six months, then, possibly have her move in with me (or whatever we arrange) after that.

09-25-2007, 10:41 AM	#58 (permalink)
RSXTC yep, ima member Location: tampa	you are 100% right, You should live with your girl before you marry her..Ive lived with my ex and that made me wanna break up with her. which means..i shouldn't marry her....right? Krystal...You should experience this before you talk about it. I know you like to post, you only have 7,000 posts. There is nothing wrong with you talking about this with no experience, but Wait till you live with your b/f you will have plenty of stories..your either gonna say it was the best time of your life..or the worst. SOrry for jumpin on you.